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NLP is about loving. NLP is about the structure of loving. Loving yourself, loving others.
How much are you willing to do for yourself or others? Is anything really worth dying for? What is really worth living for?
So many people don’t ever take time to love themselves, to nurture their greatest longings, to acknowledge their greatest fears. How much ecstasy will you let yourself have? How much joy? Try this experiment now:
Last time I told you about my friend Jim and how we helped him get back on track with his project and find the motivation to do what he needed to do. You can read that article here if you missed it.
The "This & That" technique I used with him is a very cool linguistic pattern originally modeled by John McWhirter from the UK. I learned it several years ago from Steve Andreas and it works like magic to help a person change from a negative state to a positive one strictly using conversation.
When I started this little piece with Jim, I recognized that he was very stuck. When we feel intense negative emotions it is difficult to get ourselves unstuck. This is because negative emotions cause cerebral cortex to focus narrowly only on those things that will help prepare us to fight or flee. Our flexibility and creativity go out the window which handicaps our ability to think straight or solve problems.
Hey it’s Valentines Day! How do I love you? Let me count the ways, let’s see: philia, storge, eros, agape, logos.
“Hey now wait one minute, buster!,” I hear you say. "Logos isn’t one of the Greek types of love; it is the root to logic, and logic ain’t love."
“My head is pounding, I can’t hardly think straight it’s throbbing so bad.” Glenn was trying to finish his day’s work but had been hurting since lunchtime. He had already taken three aspirin to no avail. Under pressure of the deadlines for his project, he had taken a short break for lunch, thinking that getting some food might make his headache go away. No such luck. Now it was 4:30 and it was hurting him more than ever.
I asked him if he wanted it to go away?
If I could give you a pill to make you healthy would you take it? Sure you would, wouldn’t you?
What if I told you it had no active ingredients and it was just a placebo? Most people today probably wouldn’t take an inactive sugar pill.
But new research suggests that even when people know that they are taking a placebo they still get positive effects from it.
I know that this sounds incredible, but NLP has recognized for about 25 years that there is a certain powerful effect that occurs when people set an intention and take responsibility for the results that they are producing. Just doing something, almost anything different than what you have been doing is often enough to effect the
I wrote this article several years ago (1996) for Austin NLP, the Neuro-Linguistic social and learning club for Central Texas. It is simple, but it is still a very useful NLP tool to learn. So with the NLP Practitioner Course coming up, I wanted to share it with the new people who might be interested in learning NLP tools, techniques, and skills. It works like a charm and people will think you are a wizard when you help them painlessly and fearlessly get rid of their hiccups. Enjoy!
~ Keith
Kelsey, a 19 year old, UT Student had been hiccupping all morning. It was ruining her Saturday outing with her friends to Austin’s new Blanton Museum. Not that the hiccups were so painful, they were relatively mild so she was putting up with them. But they were beginning to be chronic and several hours of continuous convulsing was beginning to make her muscles ache.
She had tried all the regular remedies, holding her breath, swallowing a glass of water with her head between her knees. Her friends had tried to frighten her when she wasn’t expecting it. She had even tried eating a spoon each of sugar and peanut butter, but nothing seemed to work. She just kept hiccupping. And it was getting rather annoying and she seemed to be out of options and resigned to live with it until it went away.
I noticed her hiccuping plight. As a stranger (there are few people stranger than an NLPer on a mission) … as a stranger, I would have to be quick with rapport and in defining her outcome. I jokingly asked if she had been suffering long? “Do you want them to go away?”
