Last time I told you about my friend Jim and how we helped him get back on track with his project and find the motivation to do what he needed to do. You can read that article here if you missed it.
The "This & That" technique I used with him is a very cool linguistic pattern originally modeled by John McWhirter from the UK. I learned it several years ago from Steve Andreas and it works like magic to help a person change from a negative state to a positive one strictly using conversation.
When I started this little piece with Jim, I recognized that he was very stuck. When we feel intense negative emotions it is difficult to get ourselves unstuck. This is because negative emotions cause cerebral cortex to focus narrowly only on those things that will help prepare us to fight or flee. Our flexibility and creativity go out the window which handicaps our ability to think straight or solve problems.